Rape isn't a women's issue. It is a human issue.
Rape culture is a term in which originated in women's studies and feminist theory, describing a culture in which rape and sexual violence against women are common and in which prevalent attitudes, norms, practices, and media condone, normalize, excuse, or tolerate sexual violence against women. Examples of behaviors with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, and rape apologists.
If we believe in "rape culture" that targets women, you're being abused by people who want to scare you in order to line their pockets. Like I said before in a previous post, people in fear consume more. Don't fall for it and stop letting the men in your life be abused by this lie.
No one ever discusses adult male victims. In jail, more men are raped every year than women in the general population. But no one cares about that, because they're just criminals, right?
Male predators go to jail; female predators go to counseling.
In reality, men have far more reason to fear women in our culture than women have to fear men. When a women is proven to have made false rape or abuse allegations, our culture is quick to make excuses and protect her. What about the man whose life she destroyed with her lies?
When it comes to gender equality in our culture, we live on a one-way street paved with double standards.
In the last few years there has been an unfortunate trend toward blaming 'rape culture' for the extensive problem of sexual violence on campuses.
Young men on college campuses who are accused of sexual assault have lost the right to due process and legal representation. Men are physically bigger and stronger than the average women, but physical strength and body size have nothing to do with abuse.
If we live in a rape culture, it's one in which violence against men and boys is normalized and excused, and not the other way around. The Violence Against Women Act protects female victims of domestic violence, but not male victims. "Don't hit girls." Where is the equivalent message for girls about hitting boys?
Male victims of sexual abuse are treated as secondary. The FBI didn't even consider men as victims in their definition of rape until 2012. The previous definition was, "the carnal knowledge of female, forcibly and against her will."
"Made to penetrate" cases are all the more complicated because of a mans lack of autonomy over his penis.
It's astounding how many awful things that occur in this world because men are afraid of appearing weak.
The dismissive attitude regarding male rape isn't only objectionable, it's also extremely harmful because it leads to the unjustified narrative that men can't be raped. Rape is not caused by cultural factors but the conscious decisions, of a small percentage of the community, to commit a violent crime.
As a society it's time to accept the fact that both men and women are equally capable of hurting each other. I don't live in fear of men. I live in fear of violent criminals and pathological liars of both sexes.
Trisha Metty is a law student in Minnesota.
Her Twitter: @trishmetty